” “Actually, I’ve been with a few guys who were kind and accepted me.
” “It seems like all the men I’ve really invested in have been chronic rejecters! I asked, “Can you imagine being in a healthy, exciting relationship with a man who accepts you and treats you well?
Later, Debbie described the outcome as the single biggest breakthrough she’d had in her life thus far, so (with her permission and use of a pseudonym) I am happy to share the details with you in this post. “I feel so completely dismissed, irrelevant and rejected. I can’t even give him a gift without being told in some way that I have fallen short of his expectations. I just hate him.” She was reduced to tears of resentment. “If you hate him, it seems you wouldn’t be so invested in keeping his life together for him.
“Well, we’ve been married for 13 years and I am sure I’ve hated him for 12,” she finally said. “I feel like I shouldn’t hate him – that somehow this is all my fault, so I have no right to feel this way. And the stress takes an overwhelming toll on your body.
Can you become filled with resentment and bitterness when he walks into the room? Do you daydream of a life that is far different than your own? I keep telling myself that hating is wrong and if I can just stop…and I don’t think he would do well without me, besides. “Well, when an explanation doesn’t do a situation justice, there is usually something else going on.” She stopped breathing for a few moments. ” I continued, “First let’s get our minds around dislike and hatred.
A client of mine, Debbie, confessed, “I hate my husband.” Debbie was someone with whom I had a very strong coach-client relationship, so I really pushed to get at what was going on behind the scenes, deep within her subconscious mind. I can’t ask for anything without him making me feel guilty. He thinks he’s all that, but its really me who keeps his life together.” “I am still amazed,” I repeated. When you dislike something that you have a choice about, you avoid it.
I’ve met many charming men who have been very nice to me.
then you get into accidents and all those kind of things,” he went on to say. the study challenges the traditional assumption that negative marital quality is always detrimental to health.
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“It’s complicated,” she explained with a degree of patience. It’s such a long time to endure a miserable, hateful relationship. And I have no positive feelings for him left – and it’s been this way for a long time. It’s not because you want to keep his life together for him.
” “Yes,” she agreed, “but again it’s not that simple, Mike. And 12 years is long enough to decide to leave and work out the details if you dislike it that much. I can’t imagine why you’d stay so long after knowing this.” “I really do dislike my husband. I dove in, “That’s the most important question you could ask. I am sure you understand that you are both responsible for this marriage.” “I know, I know. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all go away! Once you understand the real reason why you are staying, it will all go away, one way or another.